Anonymous asked: I just got my Magic Wand in today and was wondering what types of things do you do with your's? I know everyone is different and that you should find what's right for you, but having some direction could always help.
Well, it can be really good for massaging your back, shoulders and neck. I’m going to assume you can handle that yourself and that you’re asking about something else. Being a trans woman with my original parts, I can really only offer advice for that particular situation, so I hope this is applicable to you.
I’ve previously posted this quick guide to the method I find most effective when using it on your genitals, although I’m sure the best way to use it varies between different people. Experimentation is key - it took me weeks to have my first orgasm with it.
If there’s anything I would now add to that advice, it would be:
- Wear panties or other clothes to keep your parts from slipping around too much - it’s easier to target the right areas this way, and having a layer between you and the wand can help dampen the vibrations and distribute them a little more widely.
- The sensation can be absolutely overwhelming once you finally climax; this is normal and it helps to moan or whine or scream a little if you have the privacy for that.
- Be somewhere, like a bed or something, where you can just lay back and completely relax afterward. It can take a little while to recover and regain your senses - the feeling can stay with you a long time.
Now, if you’re looking to use it in a penetrative way, that works really well too. There are special attachments for this, and I gave those a pretty comprehensive review. Basically, they’ll deliver 100% of its high-powered vibrations directly to your butt, and they do this very effectively.
So really, no matter how you want to use the wand, it can be pretty effective (assuming it’s right for you; not everyone enjoys the wand, and that’s okay too!). Let me know if you need any more advice on anything.
Anonymous asked: How does the penis function on HRT? Is it more sensitive? Can you still get erections? Do the glans feel more sensitive? Balls? Foreskin? Shaft? Can you still ejaculate? Easier, or harder? If you've masturbated while rubbing your prostate, does it still feel amazing? Sorry if there's too many questions or if they're too personal. I'm just really contemplating it still. Thanks.
This is some really impressive curiosity! You know what you want to know and you’re not gonna stop until you get answers, dammit. Major points for being proactive in researching what’s relevant to decisions about your body and your health. So, these are just my own experiences and not anyone else’s, but here we go!
The how of it: You know how folks with testosterone-driven penises tend to use a hand grip and up-and-down motion when getting off? Let’s just say that feature is deprecated and in end-of-life and technical support is no longer offered for it. It can still work, sort of, if you put your mind to it, but it’s far from optimal and it doesn’t feel as good and why would you bother unless the power is out or you left your Hitachi Magic Wand at home? I’ll say that applying strong vibrations to it is, for me, the vastly superior technique. You can pretty much just keep doing that until you climax. However, it’s not as convenient as being on testosterone - you can’t crack one off in 2 minutes flat, usually. It takes a while longer to work up to it.
When not using any toys, I’ve noticed that my hand motions naturally gravitate toward just rubbing the whole area with my palm and fingers in a somewhat circular motion, almost like it’s a clit or a vulva. I never really focused on doing this intentionally, I just noticed one day that it was how I felt like doing it when I didn’t really think about it.
Erections: They don’t happen spontaneously. They don’t happen quite as easily. It’s lost about an inch in size. But, when needed, it does happen - in fact, since HRT, I’ve never climaxed without being erect (something I found way easier before HRT, since orgasms used to be so fast and easy that it often happened before the erection had a chance to make an appearance). Other trans women have reported that erections aren’t even necessary for them to finish. It seems to vary a lot.
Sensitivity: Your whole body is more sensitive. The light caress of a partner’s fingers on your arm, touching your breasts, even rubbing your feet, everything can be an erogenous zone if you feel like it. It’s not something I notice in the sense of breaking it down into specific sensitivity of the head or shaft or testes, but yes, the genitals seem to be more sensitive in general - more receptive to the right kinds of stimulation. They are capable of generating so much more intense sensations that an orgasm can practically knock you back against the wall and make you lose all sense of any reality outside your body and even make you beg for it to stop because it lasts for so long and it’s almost just too much pleasure for your body and mind to process.
It. Is. Miraculous.
Ejaculation: This one really does vary among trans women. Mine usually produces very little - typically nothing at all, or one tiny drop. However, if I invest more time into it, make it really sensual and exciting, work the prostate a little bit, and so on, it can end up being a bit more substantial. Not nearly as much as there was on testosterone, but enough to make a bit of a mess. Its consistency is different - it’s thinner but not runny or drippy, clear and not white, and nowhere near as sticky.
Prostate stuff: It feels about the same. Not any less awesome than it’s always been, but not especially mindblowing either. It’s really good, I just haven’t noticed it getting particularly better.
Wow that sure was a lot of questions about penises and stuff! I hope my notes on this subject were helpful. Others here should feel free to compare their own notes.
Anonymous asked: TMI Tuesdays always seem to result in a bunch of sex Qs, so: fetishes (have any favorites/preferences?)
Being ordered around (favorite), being tied up, spanking (favorite), light choking, being someone’s pet, tentacles, weight gain, fisting, having someone come inside me, multiple penetration, legs and thighs (favorite), feet, androgyny.
Anonymous asked: okay so hi! i love love love your blog! i had a hrt question. do you know if hrt affects orgasms or maybe incereasing sensation or any of that? I myself have been on hrt for a number of months and can notice a difference; for example more of a lasting, body high that guess you hear cis-women converse about.
Um, very much yes. I’ve actually written about this before (NSFW obviously).
agonistagent asked: If you could recommend only one anal toy for a beginner on a budget, what would it be?
Awesome question! Okay, so, the absolute first thing that I use - every time, before anything else - is a well-lubed finger. This just gets everything nice and slippery inside and out, and if you’re new at this, it’s really important to take your time and explore and get to know your body. Just feel around, slowly and gently and at your own pace, until everything’s comfortable - there are some involuntary muscles here that have to relax on their own, and you need to be in the right mindset for it. There’s no rushing this. Personally, I use Astroglide gel; a friend recommends Sliquid Sassy Booty gel. Either way, get a finger all the way in there.
As for your actual first toy, I haven’t tried a great many toys (unless like a dozen is a lot), but what you’ll want is something small and smooth and friendly and not particularly adventurous. For that, I’d pick the Tantus Ripple Small. This one is only 5” long and 1” across at maximum. Before its widest point, there are a few smaller bulbs - the first one is about the size of a pinky - that give you some time to work up to it. Once you get the full length of it inside, you can hold it in for a bit if you want, although the shape of the base can make it pop out. But the most fun part, by far, is moving the bulbs in and out - slower, and then a little faster. They’re very smooth and comfortable, and something about the sensation is just incredibly intense and, for some people, even orgasmic.
So, all around, that’s the toy I’d recommend for beginners. It’s easy, it’s comfortable, and it’s a lot of fun once you really get into it.
Your recommendations, readers?
Anonymous asked: How does masturbation as a trans woman work?
Fun question! Think about it like this: How does masturbation as a cis woman work? Or a cis man? Or a trans man? There’s really no one answer of “you just do it like this” - at least, there doesn’t have to be. There are actually a whole lot of different things that you can do with a lot of different body parts.
The basic principle is that you just do whatever feels right for you and your body, and that can vary a lot between people. There isn’t one way of doing this; there are dozens upon dozens. To list a few, from a non-op perspective: You can just do the same thing guys do with the up-and-down motion and grip. You can use a Hitachi Magic Wand or other vibrator on your girlcock. Or anally. You can use fun toys. You can play with your nipples (they get sensitive). You can stroke the inside and back of your thighs. Some women enjoy Fleshlights, apparently. There’s muffing. There’s Amy’s method. You can rub it like a clit. There’s probably a ton more that I’ve forgotten, too. (Feel free to chime in, readers!)
Altogether, we do tend to think outside the box on this. We often have to go beyond the conventional script of jerking off, because something about our bodies just doesn’t feel quite right, or because it stops working the same way once we start HRT. We may be pushed in that direction, it may be something that’s done out of necessity, but if anything, cis people should be just as willing to venture outside of the usual masturbation patterns. Give it a try - the results can be quite fruitful.
Anonymous asked: Does HRT make anal feel better than it did before? Is the penis more sensitive, what about balls? Prostate? Also, random question but does hair grow faster? I'm considering it but want to know all I can about it first.
everything feel better than it did before. Not only in terms of raw physical sensation, but also the sexual openness and enthusiasm and willingness to be outgoing that comes with finally getting the awkwardness of dysphoria out of the way.
Just my experience, but before, I really found it difficult to relax and get into the moment. I was always nervous or anxious or shy or withdrawn, even when I very, very much wanted to open up and just have fun. It felt like something was in my way, but I didn’t know what it was, or how to fix it. I dealt with it as best I could, but it was still there and it really hampered things.
HRT pretty much got rid of that completely, and I wasn’t even expecting it to. I had no idea that was a manifestation of my dysphoria, although I probably should have put the pieces together: trans + feeling uneasy in bed = try transitioning! Silly Lauren.
Now, I can actually get really, really excited and try all sorts of new fun wild experimental things, and everything is just so much more hot than it ever was before. Instead of being worried or reserved or anything, I’m just very much in my body and there’s no disconnect anymore. It makes it very easy to open up and just be yourself. Sex is better than it’s ever been.
Specifically: Anal, yep, I’ve accumulated more toys over the past year than ever before. It’s extraordinarily awesome and I’m way more into it now and I love using all sorts of weird stuff. That’s probably due to being more enthusiastic about sex than any change in sensation, but there it is. Prostate-wise, that’s never really been something I particularly focus on, but it does feel great. Some trans women experience shrinkage of the prostate, though, so keep that in mind.
As for the girlcock, that’s definitely a change in physical sensation: everything feels much more intense, and it really responds in a different way now. Lots of trans women end up phasing out the old ways of touching it or using it, because stuff like Hitachi Magic Wands just feels way better. Imagine how orgasms feel on testosterone, but 10-100x more intense, 3-4x longer, and rippling all over your body. Trembling, thrashing, eyes squeezed shut, little uncontrollable moans… the best orgasms ever, basically. They do take more work, it’s not a 2-4 minute affair anymore for most of us. But it’s so worth it.
I’m not really into the girlballs and I’m planning on getting mine cut out, but if it’s your thing, it’ll probably make that better too.
Getting your testosterone under control will almost certainly put a stop to any male-pattern hair loss, though I can’t say if it changes the rate at which it grows. Some trans women experience it growing in thicker and shinier than before, while others report that it becomes more dry and brittle. It really seems to vary.
Altogether: In all these areas, I’ve found the effects of HRT to be very beneficial and I’d really never want to go back. It has made a whole lot of things in my life just immeasurably better. I’d highly recommend trying it and seeing how it works for you - you can always go off it if you don’t like it. Let me know how everything goes, or if you’d like to know anything else.